A common result of trauma is being out of touch with your own needs. Putting others first might have been safer in order to survive and so, as a result of that trauma, having had to ignore your own needs, you have become what’s labeled a people-pleaser. Going along to get along, but internally, struggling. How can you break the cycle?
The answer is simple, but not easy. It begins with this: Normalize having needs.
As 2021 is coming to a close with policy makers worldwide urging for the individual to take responsibility for the health of others as a sign of solidarity, the question that echoes is: Is health a personal responsibility or can we expect others to endeavor healing for us and make us healthy?
Let me be so bold: The healing journey is a personal endeavor. Health is a personal responsibility. Here’s why.