A common result of trauma is being out of touch with your own needs. Putting others first might have been safer in order to survive and so, as a result of that trauma, having had to ignore your own needs, you have become what’s labeled a people-pleaser. Going along to get along, but internally, struggling. How can you break the cycle?
The answer is simple, but not easy. It begins with this: Normalize having needs.
We heal in community, because community provides the space for us to show up wholly, to practice setting boundaries, to learn about ourselves and our needs and communicating them. Willingness to comprimise is an essential, but willingness to compromise ourselves is misery.
Read MorePeople pleasing is a symptom of whatever painful lessons you learned as a child. It’s a coping mechanism rooted in beliefs of not being good enough, not deserving, not being lovable. If you find yourself in that repetitive loop of feeling torn between what you actually want to (need to) do and what others expect you to and end up choosing what won’t disappoint others over your own needs, all you want to know is: How do you learn to speak your truth? Live it? How to you feel free? Read on to finally learn how as I share a valuable tool for transformation with you.
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