When you start your healing journey of recovering from trauma, you will need to begin with self-regulation and stimulating your vagus nerve in order to support your nervous system and calm down. A first step on the way towards such practices is the creation of a safe space that you can retreat to whenever you want to practice grounding and do healing work like meditation, yoga, writing, breathwork or bodywork. I’ll show you how!
Read MoreFrom the time you grow in your mother’s womb, you develop a physical synchrony with other human beings; your mother’s rhythmical heartbeat becoming the first rhythm you are in sync with. You are wired for connection. One of the lasting effects of trauma is disruption, because trauma breaks this synchrony down. This loss of trust makes it incredibly difficult to allow intimate relationships and let anyone in. But healing requires human connection. Healing requires reconnecting to ourselves and reconnecting to another.
Read MoreIt was a coping mechanism, clearly: You know that saying “no” would be regarded as bad, but you want to be good, because you want to be loved, so you abandon the part of you that would authentically say “no”. It’s a form of self-protection to survive. And it’s a trade-off. This trade-off is how trauma shapes you in the long-term, because coping mechanisms become so automatic and ingrained in your behavior, that you can’t even tell where you begin and where the self-abandonment begins. Others begin to consider these as your identity, and you might do so yourself. When in truth, you are so much more than the behaviors you created around your self-protection.
Read MoreChasing freedom is like chasing a butterfly. It is always ahead of you if you're not free within.
Read MorePeople pleasing is a symptom of whatever painful lessons you learned as a child. It’s a coping mechanism rooted in beliefs of not being good enough, not deserving, not being lovable. If you find yourself in that repetitive loop of feeling torn between what you actually want to (need to) do and what others expect you to and end up choosing what won’t disappoint others over your own needs, all you want to know is: How do you learn to speak your truth? Live it? How to you feel free? Read on to finally learn how as I share a valuable tool for transformation with you.
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